Fear of failure. Fear of success. There are so many traps when it comes to fear. Rather than face fear in the eye most of us choose to spend way too much time in the comfort zone. We cling to the familiar and try to hold on to what we already know.
The Other Side of Fear
Everything you want is on the other side of fear…Jack Canfield
Anything of value, anything worth doing that is going to make a real impact, often brings up fear. If you want to make your mark on the universe, you need to get out of your comfort zone. Playing it safe is never the answer. If you are not feeling fear in some area of your life, you are probably not challenging yourself, let alone, going to change the world.
Listen to Your Instinct
How often have you found yourself making excuses to not do something, even though, if you were to really listen to your gut instinct, you knew it was the exact thing you should be doing to take you to the next level? There is a reason that certain things or situations make us uncomfortable. We are out on the ledge and often do not see the ground underneath us. Out of sheer panic we retreat from what scares us the most.
Your goals should be big and lofty. In essence, they should scare you a bit. If it is too easy then the challenge is not really there. What is your secret heart’s desire? Owning a business, participating in a race or maybe writing a book? Rather than dismissing these gentle pulls as something you could never accomplish take the steps to try and get there. No one ever accomplished great things by never trying. Write the first page or run the first mile. Ignore that familiar feeling that allows you to question those steps.
Make Peace with the Enemy
We all carry a certain amount of insecurity and self-doubt, and those fearful thoughts tend to rear their ugly heads when we are about to embark on anything new. No one is a stranger to feeling this way.
You will never completely get over fear. A shift in perception would be to consider it your friend. The way I try to see it is that if I feeling anxious or doubtful, it is often a positive signal that I need to get to the other side of something.
It is all about using a muscle that you have not used before. Once you start, it gets stronger and the fear begins to subside.
As you build your confidence at trying new things, it actually becomes easier to do them. It does not mean that the fear completely goes away, it just means that you become more adept at managing it.
The real secret is not to eliminate fear, but to make peace with it. Acknowledge its presence and then move on.
These feelings are nothing more than a signal that you are about to learn, grow and step out of your comfort zone. Fear often operates as a teacher. Open yourself up to the lesson and what is revealed next may surprise you.
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